Advice by Sahaj Kaur Kohli: My mom can’t deal with emotions. How do I stop resenting her?
Once I became a mom, I reflected a lot on how I was raised and what I didn’t want to do with my kids. I want to make sure I always acknowledge/apologize for my mistakes to my kids, take all their emotions seriously and never gaslight them. My mom doesn’t do that. She says pretty horrific things to me when she is angry, because she doesn’t know how to deal with her own emotions and has her own trauma she’s never dealt with.
As you’ve identified, when someone refuses to apologize, it can indicate their own inability to handle the discomfort of being vulnerable. And other times, they may just not know how to apologize nor understand the importance of it. I wonder if you have communicated to your mom what you explicitly need her to say, and why it’s important to you that she says it.
Also consider what hurt part of you needs to be tended to. How can you tend to it yourself or have it tended to in a different intimate relationship? When your mom doesn’t apologize — denying you the closure you are looking for — you’re left to swallow your anger and pain. It’s important to find ways to release and acknowledge these feelings.
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