'While we may begin by fantasizing about love in part because we are physically attracted, later, we find ourselves drawn to the body because we love the person.'
Attraction, then, though not necessarily sex, appears to be essential in romantic love. However, love is not merely physical attraction. What exactlyMan and woman looking at each other, sophisticatedHere too, one may suppose that attraction is one of the ingredients; that mixing it with other essential elements such as enjoying the other's company will give us love.
In other cases, physical attraction and love co-evolve. People become more attracted or attracted in a different way in proportion as they come to love. It is as though the embrace of a loved one becomes deeper with time. A silent embrace early on in a relationship is a bit likeside by side. The lovers are savoring a promise. They are next to each other but may or may not be wishing for the same thing.
. The body was not the final destination: The psyche, the soul was. Once the final destination is revealed to be misguided, the journey itself comes to seem pointless.