Despite telling her my new name and pronouns, she refuses to refer to me that way even when we are alone.
Every time I bring it up, she gets quiet or changes the subject. I love her and she loves me, but it breaks my heart to see her ignore who I am, and I know she won’t back me up if the rest of my family finds out. I feel hopeless. What do I do to make her understand?Parents usually want to protect their children. They can also be misinformed or confused about the issue of being a trans person.
Take your mom to a PFLAG meeting, if she’s willing to go. It can make a huge difference for parents, and it’s what I recommend for you. To find a local chapter, visit. PFLAG booklets like “Our Trans Loved Ones” or “Guide to Being a Trans Ally” could be enlightening for her . For your own emotional support, find community that is accepting and affirming -- PFLAG, a faith community or a transmasculine support group -- to gain confidence and safety. And do not underestimate the power of “chosen family.” Create a plan to get your life in order if your family can’t be accepting. There ARE people who will love and care for anyone whose family can’t love them. Seek them out.
While it may be challenging, look toward community gathering spaces and meetup groups. People are there; it may just take a bit more work to find them. Consider starting the search in a nearby larger town or city to find out who else travels there for support, or to find a safe space to explore away from home to gain a broader perspective.
Stay safe. Educate yourself about resources online . Planning AHEAD is something people forget most often about the transition process. I wish you only the best.I may stop going to an auto mechanic I have used for several years because of mistakes he made diagnosing problems on my daughter’s friend’s car. He advised her to get another car, but a different mechanic replaced the spark plugs and the catalytic converter, and the car is fine.
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